Wednesday, July 08, 2009

Shopping around...

Help...

I am shopping around, seeking a recommendation for a professional therapist.

Criteria:

1. must be gay-friendly, even gay himself - understanding what it means to be a "gay man", particularly in my situation.

2. must be LDS-friendly, accepting of my values and core beliefs, but preferably not LDS, or at least not feeding me the ecclesiastical counsel. I am not seeking the church-sponsored party line approach.

3. must be MOM-friendly, accepting of my marriage and seeking to support me in that marriage and my family commitments.

4. must be open to new ideas and approachs - not interested in the "standard answers".

5. must be adverse to reparative therapy - I have nothing to be "cured" of.

6. must office / practice along the Wasatch Front.

Referrals may have been given to me in the past, but I wasn't prepared to accept or listen. I'm now ready. This post makes public that I am seeking help.

If you think you know someone who meets this criteria, please let me know...

Thanks.

8 comments:

DocHolladay said...

I've had several therapy experiences in the SLC area. I can let you know the good the bad and the ugly. docholladay99@gmail.com

Public Loneliness said...

Hi Beck, a friend of mine had referred me to Lee Beckstead, I believe he meets just about all of your criteria and has done tons of research and published papers, I believe he even leads a MOM group and I also think he is in UT County. You can Google him or email me to get his email address, he was quick to reply. I wasn't able to meet with him because my insurance didn't cover him but he was able to point me in other very very helpful directions, you can email me publicloneliness@gmail.com if you can't connect with him.
hugs,pl

Ezra said...

What a great and brave step! I hope you're able to get something great out of this.

A.J. said...

Maybe try your local Pride center? They might be able to give you the number of gay friendly therapist. I wish there was more resources for those of us in MOM. I admire you for seeking help.-A.J.

Bror said...

Hey, don't take to long of a break. I still like the idea of a moho hike. Maybe we could be each others therapists? I wouldn't have a clue as to where you could find a good therapists. Also, let me know how to get a hold of you next time I am up north. It would be great to meet you in person. I have an email address on my profile. Hang in there bud! big bror hug. :)

drakames said...

I'd give you the name of mine. She meets all the requirements except for not being a "he."

However you may want to check out this website:

http://lgbtqtherapists.com/index.html

There might be some information there that could be helpful as you look for a therapist.

Finding my therapist took a lot of effort, but she's so amazing and has helped me so much that I'm glad I was persistent. Good luck!

Anonymous said...

Marybeth Raynes. She was very helpful to my son and he was pretty picky! She co-wrote Peculiar People and has done tons of research, as well. It is very important to get a good fit, so meet with someone to check them out and if you don't feel comfortable, try someone different. You'll know when you have the right one. It'll be like putting on a pair of well-worn shoes.

Alanna

robert said...

Great news...and best of luck in the effort.