Friday, August 29, 2008
Tuesday, August 26, 2008
"So, no—I do not have in my files a lot of the “good stories” you want, stories of a marriage that not only endures but is deeply joyful. I know many stories of marriages like yours that survive. Especially older men have written to me that there is no way they would jeopardize what they have for the possibility of finding the man of their dreams. Several have said that they attend Evergreen, not for the possibility of being “changed,” but for the support they find there for the decision they have made to stay in the marriage. On the other hand, a young man wrote to me that he, 100 percent gay, had decided to marry his best friend; but, he said, “I could never go to Evergreen; I know that I will always have to guard against being in a room with that many gay men; I will have to be vigilant every day of my life.”"
Regarding advice for me...
"Yes, there are gay-straight marriages that survive and have various levels of satisfaction. Last year the Deseret News did some features on a group of such marriages. What I cannot in good conscience say to you, is that your feelings are going to change. But I can say that yes, it is very possible for you to say, “Above all I intend for my marriage to come before everything else and to be faithful to my wife for the entire journey and for us to continue to love each other deeply with the very best love we have.” Either way (and I have said this to every gay married man who has ever contacted me), either way you are going to make a large sacrifice. Only you can know which road will ultimately bring you the greatest amount of peace.
I send very best wishes for all angels to walk with you on this journey. I know that the pain and the conflicts you feel are enormous."
She ended with these sincere and kind words for me that have affected me deeply...
"And I certainly honor you... for your determination to create your own original path amid the paths to your left and to your right, none of which feel authentic to you. Of course you can succeed in what you are so committed to."
Sunday, August 24, 2008
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Saturday, August 23, 2008
1) I love this photo. I just do.
Thursday, August 21, 2008
Wednesday, August 20, 2008
Monday, August 18, 2008
Friday, August 15, 2008
Sunday, August 10, 2008
Saturday, August 09, 2008
I'll try to keep my drooling admiration to a minimum... :)
Thursday, August 07, 2008
Monday, August 04, 2008
Saturday, August 02, 2008
So, as my gay adolescent phase continues in full force (I guess I'm destined to never grow up as a mature gay man as long as I live this pseudo non-real life of pretending), I'm looking and watching and feeling pretty stupid for being my age and acting like one of the guys in the BYU freshmen dorms. You'd think I'd be beyond this. Alas, (heavy sigh) I'm not.