Wednesday, April 25, 2007

Keep your mouth shut!

As I recently misinterpreted the post of "Here's to Hope" and rained on his parade and was called a turd for doing so, it made me realize just how much "we" in cyberspace really don't know each other, though we readily throw out our two-cents worth of advice, opinion and counsel to "friends" who are truly just strangers.

You don't really know me. I don't really know you. This whole blog thing is such a game... it's an illusion! It's a facsimile, not the real thing.

I apologize if I've offended you - any one of you - and hope you understand that if I've offered my opinion on your life through your blogs, it is only because I've thought I was trying to help and I've felt a connection and need to care. I recognize I may come across at times as being "holier than thou", though I've tried to reveal my insecurities, frailties, imperfections and shortcomings as well, in hopes that you see how vulnerable I am and how many answers I don't know - especially at this stage in my life. I truly apologize for any arrogance or superiority. I'm feeling pretty stupid and naive right now.

Maybe Mark Twain was right when he said...

"It is better to keep your mouth shut and appear stupid than to open it and remove all doubt!"

13 comments:

drex said...

You've never offended me! In fact, I look forward to the insights your comments often provide.

Scot said...

Great, I'm offended now. I thought you were my internet bff, Beck.

What? That’s an “illusion”!??

Scot said...

Egads!

Not sure of my hold on the hip teen acronyms, I searched for bff to be sure it was understood to mean the cutesy “best friend forever”, and found it can have a disturbing alternative. I meant the most common usage.

Sheesh, I should stick with my generation…

playasinmar said...

I get all my exercise walking to the funerals of my more athletic friends. -Mark Twain

Mormon Enigma said...

I don't think I agree that this is all just an illusion. I care about my gay Mormon friends. True, I don't know them as well as I might if we knew each other in person. But, communication breakdowns and misinterpretations can occur even in long term friendships.

BTW, I don't think you're a turd.

Kengo Biddles said...

I second the non-turdiness vote from ME, and I would add that I also feel more friends to you than my former classmates, and I saw them every day.

Loyalist (with defects) said...

words are very much the most misunderstood element in human interaction.

I consider your friendship valued and worthwhile. And the next time I'm in slc area, we'll do lunch.

Your friend,

Loyalist (my non de plum, by the way reflects my thoughts on friendship as well) :-)

Forester said...

It's true, we don't know a lot about each other, but the little we do know is so significant that it brings us close together in a very strong bond. Thanks for all your advice and support. You've made it further than most of us.

santorio said...

gosh, i missed that post and comment. darn job, gets in the way of what's really important

-L- said...

See, I think your discussion with Here's to Hope showed just what's so great about blogging. You say something, someone disagrees or even points out that you were over the top, you backpedal, he says "no prob" and we all go home friends. I back pedal on my comments all the time. I reserve the right to be wrong all the time so that I don't have to limit my comments to carefully researched and independently verified air-tight legal documents. It's just a conversation.

You rock.

Beck said...

Thanks everyone for the comments and feedback though I really was just wanting to apologize for stepping on unknown toes.

But I sincerely appreciate your kind words and friendship. Maybe this blogging thing is more than an illusion after all... :)

Kengo Biddles said...

Just wait until -L- and I do 'The Prestige' part of this illusory thing called the moqueerosphere.

Beck said...

KB: The "prestige" as I understand it, is the resolution of the trick. To disappear isn't good enough. You have to come back!

So, the prestige of the moqueerosphere is where you come back in your true identity confirming what...?

- that you really are straight afer all? :)