In the Deseret News on Thursday, there was an article by Mormon author Orson Scott Card "Science on gays falls short" which argues that gay marriage is not an idea to be taken seriously, essentially because scientific evidence of the causes of homosexuality insisting that it is not a "choice" is inconclusive.
I can understand a Deseret News article written by a famous Mormon author taking such a stance, though I'm not sure it has anything to do with furthering the cause of understanding the pros or cons of gay marriage. However, when Card goes into the realm of married gays, I have to question if he really knows what he is talking about, or is he just being belligerent and biased.
He states about people like me (MOHO MOMs):
"Ever since 1973, the homosexuality normalizers have done their best to avoid pointing out the prevalence of what is called "bisexuality", but which might just as easily be called "indeterminacy". A large number of men and women marry and conceive children before (at the age of a normal midlife crisis) they discover or reveal that they "were always" homosexual.
"Obviously, whether or not they were fantasizing a different partner, they successfully mated and reproduced. This makes hash of the doctrines of inevitability".
I guess people like me who came out later in life, who have been married, and who have children (though for some of us MOMs this wasn't possible - but that's another subject), have done so because we've CHOSEN to express ourselves in this new way as the result of a midlife crisis!
Is that why I'm here? Is this what this is all about? I thought it was because of a society and culture that brainwashed me into thinking that there was no such thing as a GAY MORMON and to shun all thoughts (and be ashamed for even having them) and to get married (and hope they'll just go away) and just live in that closet over there (for we really don't want to know that you exist) and oh, by the way, if you do come out, it is easily explained as a CHOICE brought on by a midlife crisis!
I think I'm going to scream...
I don't have to wonder why members of the Church are so ignorant of people like me. They devoutly read the church-sponsored newspaper spouting such statements by a popular author as "the truth". There is no effort to expound on any counter points (as would be expected with good journalism) and the casual reader is left convinced that people like me in our society and culture just don't exist and that if we inconvenienty by chance do make ourselves known, well, we're just confused because of a midlife crisis we're going through - nothing to be taken seriously.
Now why didn't I think of that? I think I'll bag this angst gig with this blog - trying to figure out why I've allowed this to go on so long - and head out and get me that red sports car after all. What do you think?