tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post8823808831304816961..comments2023-10-12T06:29:13.317-06:00Comments on Beck: Just a friend...Beckhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06159223254071653666noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-19662972571754281542009-06-13T14:21:23.518-06:002009-06-13T14:21:23.518-06:00AUSTIN: Good point. Maybe I am. Maybe I'm j...AUSTIN: Good point. Maybe I am. Maybe I'm jumping to the same conclusion that seems obvious but yet isn't. I'm sure many did the same about me.<br /><br />SILVER: So good to see you commenting and popping up on my blog again. I've missed your sage advice and warning voice. You have been in my thoughts and prayers more than you know. I do not envy the situation you are in, but I'm glad you're willing to share with others - such as your most recent post. I've found it chilling and scary to say the least. <br /><br />I see much of myself in you and what you said you tried to do - and keeping the boundaries, and doing it (the increased affection and attention) for the therapy and healing - and then letting it get away from you, become addictive and finally distructive.<br /><br />I know you shake your head at me when I say that I can "keep the boundaries" and that I "have it all in control" and I can hear your counsel and advice to be careful. I guess I'm not naive enough to believe that I am beyond that kind of thing - that I would never allow my boundaries to be crossed. I'm sure, in the right circumstance and situation, I could let my guard down and want more to happen than it should... playing with fire is a dangerous game and yes, you usually do get burned. So, why is the fire so damn attractive?<br /><br />This is quite the road trip you've been on (and are on) and I'm sure you don't want me to go down the same road, but I honor you for your convictions and for your efforts to do what you need to to put things in order, and I seek your warning voice to continue echoing in my ears.<br /><br />GECKO: Thanks for seeing what I'm doing as a "safe and meaningful way to give love and support to each other and enjoy a little time together". I have full confidence that it can do just that!Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06159223254071653666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-61251123885308900992009-06-12T00:21:06.290-06:002009-06-12T00:21:06.290-06:00Good for you, Beck. I hope you both find safe and...Good for you, Beck. I hope you both find safe and meaningful ways to give love and support to each other and enjoy a little time together. I wish I had a fellow Moho to lunch date with, talk openly and maybe do some hiking together. I'm slightly jealous, but really happy for you.<br /><br />P.S. Keep your wife in the loop, so she doesn't get jealous, either!GeckoManhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04846438788253129899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-26499117234474317712009-06-09T11:20:54.542-06:002009-06-09T11:20:54.542-06:00Beck,
Congratulations on your new found friendship...Beck,<br />Congratulations on your new found friendship. I know the need and the satisfacation that comes from a bonifide "mandate". I've got some experience in this area, maybe some experience that you do not want to follow. <br /><br />Walk carefully my friend. You just might meet a manfriend who will spin your head around and rock your world. Be careful with boundaries. <br /><br />See my new post today on my blog for my experience and how one "mandate" changed my life forever. <br /><br />I support you and your friend in this new friendship. Just be careful where it goes. Stay within the lines.<br /><br />Hugs, SilverSilverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11403824626444395199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-49653946176660933182009-06-03T21:30:26.724-06:002009-06-03T21:30:26.724-06:00SARAH: It is a lifelong search. I've had man...SARAH: It is a lifelong search. I've had many guy friends, even many "close" guy friends throughout my life that I have cultivated and cherished... but nearly all of them have been with straight guys, and most have been with a mentoring aspect to them.<br /><br />This one is the first time a fellow SSA / MOHO friendship has struck a chord and resonated. I don't know why. I hope it lasts. I hope it goes somewhere. I hope it satisfies my needs, and in the process, strengthening my marriage (yes, I still believe such a path is possible - even if said belief is naive and not based on a proven path). <br /><br />I know that Scott knows more MOHOs personally than almost anyone, due to the amazing work / service the two of you have rendered for this community. I would think those acquaintences could blossom into meeting his needs of "bromancing" that so many of us have in common...<br /><br />To even think I'm commenting to you about his "bromancing needs" is feeling pretty strange... but here's an echoing SHOUT OUT for all of this community to rally around Scott as a friend!!!! Not just as a nice guy that offers up his home once a month for a good hangout...Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06159223254071653666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-38554133154177822062009-06-03T21:23:02.658-06:002009-06-03T21:23:02.658-06:00EL GENIO said: "it just seems like a good, c...EL GENIO said: "it just seems like a good, close friendship..."<br /><br />Yes it is and isn't that a good thing?<br /><br />BROR: We all need a good man-date every now and then... maybe more now than then!<br /><br />NED: I envy your friendships you've developed with straight guys centered around excersizing and sports and physical activities. This has always caused me great anxiety ever since junior high locker rooms! :( I want to get to the point where man-dates could be centered on such activities and I could actually enjoy said activities without freaking out about feeling so inadequate and inferior. You'd think someone my age would be able to get over such things...<br /><br />But, to have a MOHO friend who can accept and reciprocate feelings and affection is exciting and fulfilling.<br /><br />Someday I hope to have both kinds of man-dates.Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06159223254071653666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-62775618933949525632009-06-03T15:03:12.438-06:002009-06-03T15:03:12.438-06:00How can I find Scott a friendship like that? He s...How can I find Scott a friendship like that? He starts developing a great friendship with another MOHO, and then they run out of things to talk about, or they disappear into thin air, or life for the friend changes (like they stop needing Scott as much) and they move on, and Scott discovers that the friendship, or what he hoped was a developing "bromance" has been whisked away from him once again.<br /><br />And so he finds himself lonely, because as all of you know, a wife, even a wonderful, beautiful, supportive one, is still just not quite enough...<br /><br />Any volunteers?Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08765524620705643823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-78328737755925095012009-06-03T08:43:56.595-06:002009-06-03T08:43:56.595-06:00Beck: You're lucky to have such a friend. Most...Beck: You're lucky to have such a friend. Most of my one-on-one time with men is spent exercising with straight friends. That meets many of my needs for acceptance as one of the guys, physical activity, stress relief, social contact and genuine friendship. <br /><br />But warm hugs are pretty rare and conversation about the challenges and blessings of SGA have only been touched on a few times in the heat of the Prop 8 battle as part of a larger discussion of politics.<br /><br />I love my straight friends. They just don't love me back in the same way. Hey, you squeeze a tomato and you're not going to get apple juice! <br /><br />Anyway this is a long way of saying congratulations on the friendship you are forming.Nedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05938186985738546670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-35922182566922487962009-06-02T15:56:44.501-06:002009-06-02T15:56:44.501-06:00I guess all I have to say is that I could use a go...I guess all I have to say is that I could use a good "man date".Brorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17843077698642948401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-27630643664665535452009-06-02T11:29:16.043-06:002009-06-02T11:29:16.043-06:00I had a friend at church who used to always mentio...I had a friend at church who used to always mention the P's. You know, planned, payed for, etc. Except for his last P was "put out". I don't think all the P's are necessary unless we are trying to encourage the young men to formally date. But what was interesting, is that by his definition, I had never been on a date in my entire life until recently. Anyways, from what I can read of the situation, it just seems like a good, close friendship.El Geniohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02801064758712821345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-40459545877657928682009-06-02T10:39:12.566-06:002009-06-02T10:39:12.566-06:00EZRA: We went for a hike into the foothills and h...EZRA: We went for a hike into the foothills and had a passerby take our photo on this bench... what can I say? :)Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06159223254071653666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-83683031997286125102009-06-02T10:37:15.461-06:002009-06-02T10:37:15.461-06:00:):)Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06159223254071653666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-33692761016618463312009-06-02T10:07:58.682-06:002009-06-02T10:07:58.682-06:00Where on earth do you find these hot pictures???Where on earth do you find these hot pictures???Ezrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18249055675517672157noreply@blogger.com