tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post5762365517617378906..comments2023-10-12T06:29:13.317-06:00Comments on Beck: Year end reflections - part II...Beckhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06159223254071653666noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-47753140432195306662008-01-24T08:23:00.000-07:002008-01-24T08:23:00.000-07:00Maybe she realizes that these boys that are your f...Maybe she realizes that these boys that are your friends are just friends. After all, they are much younger, about to be married or dating girls seriously etc. and I hate to interrupt your fantasyLOL, but maybe these young men look up to you as the great guy you are, and as a good priesthood holder/father figure type person in their lives. Maybe there own fathers (I would be willing to bet money on this one) are absent, emotionally absent, not getting along, not as strong in the Church as you, not as nice as you...etc. <BR/><BR/>Dr h, my husband says "when you hear stomping hoofs, think horses not zebras". It could be, Beck that your feelings and desires with these young men are all one sided. Your wife may realize this as well and be accepting you for who you are and the man she loves. I agree that, I also don't like waking sleeping dogs or cats (I'm a cat person:) however, I bet if you did speak with her, she would greatly appreciate you more. <BR/><BR/>Don't be afraid to bring it up, reassure her you love her and that these young men men alot as friends to you. She may realize after all, that there is no chance on their behalf that they would want anything more that fatherly love and friendship from you. I know you are not that old:) but you know what I mean. It's great that you've helped the two young men in their lives and that you support them in their futures to hopefully get married and have children and fulfill the measure of their creation. I realize that sounds like a major Church line, but it's the Lord's line and design for their happiness and yours, and as you know, the love of our children can hardly compare to any other love on this planet!<BR/>Well, good luck to you and please try to talk with your wife, she probably has thought about the whole thing a million times already and told herself that these two boys wouldn't do anything sexually with you but it might bug her that you are so taken with them (believe me she knows and can tell, but is being loving to you and giving you space.) She sounds like she adores you Beck, God bless you in your future with her and your children/family.<BR/><BR/>Love, KittywaymoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-81520271488908516062008-01-03T07:48:00.000-07:002008-01-03T07:48:00.000-07:00JGW: The "sleeping dog" was kicked a bit on New Y...JGW: The "sleeping dog" was kicked a bit on New Years Day... more to come. This isn't getting any better! :(<BR/><BR/>GECKO: Mutual understanding is hard to come by when denial is the standard mode of operation. The Clintonian "don't ask, don't tell" keeps status quo but doesn't progress any discussion of mutual understanding.<BR/><BR/>Maybe I'll write her a letter?Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06159223254071653666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-37139266197236409932008-01-03T07:45:00.000-07:002008-01-03T07:45:00.000-07:00OOSM: Worry continues in both of our minds. No, ...OOSM: Worry continues in both of our minds. No, it isn't healthy. Neither is walking on eggshells...<BR/><BR/>CLARK: Thanks for finding me. I've appreciated seeing your interviews and following your friendship with Elbow. Please don't be a stranger.Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06159223254071653666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-51795343648494504832008-01-02T23:03:00.000-07:002008-01-02T23:03:00.000-07:00I agree with John, that you strive for mutual unde...I agree with John, that you strive for mutual understanding. Perhaps you could express appreciation for her positive changes, and ask if you are interpreting her behavior correctly. And of course it never hurts to calmly reinforce your loyalty and commitments to her at an opportunity such as this when review of relationships and plans for the future are top of mind.<BR/><BR/>I hope this 2008 is indeed a Happy New Year for you, Beck.GeckoManhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04846438788253129899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-29926880270828572062007-12-30T23:29:00.000-07:002007-12-30T23:29:00.000-07:00Beck - You could always ask her how she felt about...Beck - You could always ask her how she felt about those visits... I can understand why you wouldn't want to kick any sleeping dogs, but maybe if you asked her about it, it would be reassuring to her that you are concerned about her feelings.John Gustav-Wrathallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03557940681381951271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-18141737512107486692007-12-30T00:29:00.000-07:002007-12-30T00:29:00.000-07:00Wow this is such an awesome post. VERY thought pr...Wow this is such an awesome post. VERY thought provoking. The way that your wife has reacted to the situation.. in such a different way then she would have in the past.. is so interesting to me. Perhaps she is trying a different tactic to promote inclusion in your life rather than promoting conflict with it. Obviously part of your life is this attraction, and if she is indeed beginning to trust you- I think thats an amazing sign of promise. A perfect brightness of hope comes to mind.. I am a new reader so I am playing catch up a little bit with your story, but I just wanted to let you know that I found this very interesting. I hope you are having a merry Christmas!CLARK JOHNSENhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02893018646857280001noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-75126203609814966062007-12-29T21:48:00.000-07:002007-12-29T21:48:00.000-07:00I hope she is coming to understand the strength of...I hope she is coming to understand the strength of the relationship you have with her. Worry is not a healthy emotion for her or anybody.One of So Manyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15079854483497796201noreply@blogger.com