tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post1800938968613377942..comments2023-10-12T06:29:13.317-06:00Comments on Beck: Grapefruit and oranges...Beckhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06159223254071653666noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-4626343323605029762009-09-26T09:26:40.009-06:002009-09-26T09:26:40.009-06:00ABE and SEAN: I hope it's progress and things...ABE and SEAN: I hope it's progress and things are "working out"... it certainly feels more like two steps forward and 1-3/4 steps back. Is that progress?<br /><br />BRAVONE: I'm sorry about the private-blog gig, but I still feel the need to not be so public. Sometimes I feel like I should just shut it down all together. I've resisted those thoughts and so I still remain, maybe more cloaked than you'd like, but it still serves my purposes.<br /><br />I do appreciate your love and support and hope you'll pop in every now and again to see how things are progressing / not progressing.Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06159223254071653666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-87106554076074029932009-09-24T11:23:27.085-06:002009-09-24T11:23:27.085-06:00Beck, I hate that your blog isn't public, I ke...Beck, I hate that your blog isn't public, I keep forgetting to log in and see if you have a new post, and so often respond late.<br /><br />You did absolutely awesome! I see tremendous progress. I love that you can feel so emotional and yet respond so rationally. <br /><br />This post is a keeper. Your desired scenario is exactly what has made our relationship flourish. <br /><br />Ti voglio un sacco di bene!Bravonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02762204502534599107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-45895397534144501212009-09-22T19:21:10.290-06:002009-09-22T19:21:10.290-06:00I'm glad that things are starting to work out....I'm glad that things are starting to work out.Seanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16629678782997797603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-23486287592737334292009-09-21T10:41:48.997-06:002009-09-21T10:41:48.997-06:00Definite progress.Definite progress.Abelard Enigmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13166049686152203530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-32414555226890301722009-09-21T09:29:14.912-06:002009-09-21T09:29:14.912-06:00NED: Your positive attitude and optimism for my f...NED: Your positive attitude and optimism for my future is motivating me onward and upward! And you're a big part of me staying focused and positive toward my goal.<br /><br />It's been a long time in coming and I'm not saying that all is well in the Beck home and everyone is on board, but there is a different spirit and I hope to be able to show myself and her that there is this other non-obvious / counter-intuitive path that is good for the both of us.<br /><br />Hope. There is always hope...Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06159223254071653666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-39817695845088966762009-09-21T09:25:23.152-06:002009-09-21T09:25:23.152-06:00MOHOH: You're right. I haven't quoted my ...MOHOH: You're right. I haven't quoted my wife before using her owns words in a post. But, I do see hope and a spirit of understanding going on here... especially with the following lesson:<br /><br />As I focus on her and help to meet her needs and draw closer to her in the ways that are comfortable and natural to me (because I love her), she becomes more comfortable in seeing my needs and desires to explore other relationships.<br /><br />And, as I am honest with her and helping to involve her in knowing how these other relationships are good for me, the hope is that she will come to see that they are good for her, too.<br /><br />At least, that's the idea. <br /><br />PHILIP: You've been a huge part of my ability to put together this dichotomy of relationships outside of marriage being good for the relationship inside the marriage. Big thanks for making that hard-to-comprehend logic comprehendable to me in a way that I could articulate it to her!Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06159223254071653666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-7832641034561638582009-09-20T20:20:51.630-06:002009-09-20T20:20:51.630-06:00I agree with MoHoHawaii that this is substantive a...I agree with MoHoHawaii that this is substantive and Philip that this is a most likeable post. I also express optimism (are you surprised?) that there's likely to be more progress ahead as you work together to accomodate the legitimate needs you have both articulated so well in a spirit of give and take, love and candor.<br /><br />So, how did you do? <br /><br />You did so well, that if you were to get a letter grade, in my humble opinion, it could only be an A.<br /><br />Was it a good thing to call off the therapy session?<br /><br />I'll answer that one with a question of my own: <br />If you had kept the appointment, do you think your night would have ended with "I smiled back and we turned off the lights... :)" ?<br /><br />Congrats on your hard work, your patience, persistence and honesty. And your hardwon mutual understanding and progress. Cheers to you both!Nedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05938186985738546670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-24290484711301824372009-09-20T16:30:57.769-06:002009-09-20T16:30:57.769-06:00Beck,
I like this post. I like it very much.
Yo...Beck,<br /><br />I like this post. I like it very much.<br /><br />Your wife sounds like a sweetheart.<br /><br />Regards,<br />PhilipPhiliphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00230261242977514599noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-3173903640963574472009-09-19T20:29:02.106-06:002009-09-19T20:29:02.106-06:00I like the fact that you are having substantive co...I like the fact that you are having substantive conversations and that you are approaching it from the point of view of accommodation, not apology.<br /><br />Go for it.<br /><br />This is the first time I can recall reading your wife's own words. I can feel her reluctance to "go there." It's poignant. The world she dreams of isn't going to be. But hopefully there will be other good things in your future together.MoHoHawaiihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15086670779804942122noreply@blogger.com