tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post1318269797219947794..comments2023-10-12T06:29:13.317-06:00Comments on Beck: Lessons Learned (or in the process)...Beckhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06159223254071653666noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-26548605629193858312010-08-09T08:47:43.206-06:002010-08-09T08:47:43.206-06:00JGW: You're right that these could be directe...JGW: You're right that these could be directed just as much to any spouse-relationship, as they are basic principles of love and acceptance, but they are particularly important for me to remember in my relationship in MOM as they don't come all that instinctively or naturally - they have to be actively remembered.<br /><br />And even though they may not be as naturally forthcoming, the fruits of internalizing these basic relationship skills are just as evident, just as valid.Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06159223254071653666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-60131408261296792092010-08-08T07:42:05.749-06:002010-08-08T07:42:05.749-06:00Not delusional. If anyone can make it work, you w...Not delusional. If anyone can make it work, you will. These are good pointers for any marriage. (Though any good spouse, I think, will have to learn them and internalize them for oneself, as you have...!)John Gustav-Wrathallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03557940681381951271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-4848950039908880022010-08-06T08:37:10.794-06:002010-08-06T08:37:10.794-06:00I really like the "essential verbs" list...I really like the "essential verbs" list as it sums up the post nicely. Thanks for trimming off the fat and getting to the meat of the matter!<br /><br />However, I'm kind of fond of:<br /><br />steamed porn<br />mated person<br />donate sperm<br />meats ponder<br />a choice ethic nut<br />cacti ouch he nite<br /><br />What I really think? I think you have too much time on your hands!<br /><br />What I really wanted to know is whether you thought I was "a choice ethic nut" who "donates sperm" while watching "steamed porn"!Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06159223254071653666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-21187353996821880662010-08-05T22:29:31.075-06:002010-08-05T22:29:31.075-06:00Dear Beck, You may accuse me of trying to oversimp...Dear Beck, You may accuse me of trying to oversimplify things only to overcomplicate them later, and I will plead guilty to both counts, but.....<br /><br />here's my list of the essential verbs that I derive from your lessons learned post:<br /><br />touch<br />cuddle<br />respond<br />mate<br />escape<br />talk<br />honor<br />restrain<br />authenticate<br />choose<br /><br />If we then take just the first two verbs, touch and cuddle, and run them through an anagram program, we are given these intriguing phrases:<br /><br />clutch due do<br />dutch clue do<br />cute loch dud<br />loch cut dude<br /><br />Furthermore if we take the next two verbs, respond and mate, and anagram them we get:<br /><br />renamed post<br />meander stop<br />smartened op<br />steamed porn<br />earned stomp<br />amend poster<br />moaned strep<br />tandem prose<br />damper notes<br />mated person<br />donate sperm<br />aped mentors<br />stamen doper<br />meats ponder<br />parent modes<br />stamp redone<br />trams opened<br />armed pets on<br />dream pets on<br />and<br />snared me pot<br /><br />Now if we take the next two verbs, escape and talk, we get:<br /><br />cake petals<br />castle peak<br />a tale pecks<br />cat pal seek<br />and <br />late as peck<br /><br />Moving along to, honor and restrain, we are met with:<br /><br />sharer iron not<br />trainer horn so<br />sierra thorn on<br />earn short iron<br />near shorn trio<br />ear horn trios<br /><br />and the possible resort hotels of:<br />Rarer Shoot Inn<br />Rarer Hoots Inn<br />Rarer Sooth Inn<br />and <br />Rarer Hoot Inns<br /><br />Strangely, we get no anagrams for the last two verbs, authenticate and choose, but if we modify the words to authentic choice, we are the given this grand finale:<br /><br />coach cutie thine<br />account ethic hie<br />each incite touch<br />teach incite ouch<br />canoe cutie hitch<br />nacho ethic cutie<br />chat choice unite<br />caution chic thee<br />ciao entice hutch<br />ciao ethnic chute<br />a choice niche tut<br />a choice ethic nut<br />a choice tech unit<br />a hectic ouch nite<br />a cutie cone hitch<br />cache cutie hit on<br />cache cutie hot in<br />cache ouch nite it<br />cachet touche I in<br />coach tech untie I<br />coach cutie ten hi<br />catch cutie hie on<br />cacti entice uh oh<br /><br />and the loud but endearing<br />cacti ouch he nite<br /><br />So, Beck, what do you make of all that?Nedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05938186985738546670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-23478629596610601962010-08-05T11:35:28.980-06:002010-08-05T11:35:28.980-06:00THE WIFE: I was hoping to get more feedback, part...THE WIFE: I was hoping to get more feedback, particularly from the straight spouse perspective.<br />Thanks for the encouragement and best wishes for your MOM as well.Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06159223254071653666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-53301589396409575472010-08-05T09:09:51.658-06:002010-08-05T09:09:51.658-06:00I think those are really great lessons you've ...I think those are really great lessons you've learned. As a straight wife, I can tell you that all those things you listed are incredibly important in making a MOM work.The Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13838501933573749880noreply@blogger.com