tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post1271317673047976429..comments2023-10-12T06:29:13.317-06:00Comments on Beck: The "Gods Must Be Crazy" Phenomenon...Beckhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06159223254071653666noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-22642841153555672262010-07-17T09:04:17.645-06:002010-07-17T09:04:17.645-06:00I think MOHOH has a very good point. I've bec...I think MOHOH has a very good point. I've become much more insecure around men since Husband and I stopped having sex. Case in point: The trainer that was running a boot camp that I just participated in made me into such a bumbling idiot every single time we met, and he wasn't all that attractive to me. But when he wore cologne to one session, I thought I was going to die. <br />So, until I go out and "fulfill myself sexually" I'm going to have to accept the bumbling idiot.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-10896296663077303312010-07-14T08:45:12.605-06:002010-07-14T08:45:12.605-06:00REX: I really like your comment. It is more abou...REX: I really like your comment. It is more about accepting myself, being comfortable with myself and who I am. I hope to get there sooner than later as I'm tired of feeling so idiotic about being around beautiful guys.<br /><br />... sigh...Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06159223254071653666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-83352119260570107112010-07-09T17:15:55.229-06:002010-07-09T17:15:55.229-06:00I don't do this nearly as much as I once did. ...I don't do this nearly as much as I once did. It still happens, but I'm getting better. I find it's not really about my feelings about "him" (any hottie) as much as my feelings about me. The better I feel about me, the less like a bumbling boob I act. :) Since my feelings about myself are always fluctuating a bit, I'm sometimes more confident than others. Either way, I always like being around a great-looking man. <br /><br />Part of that feeling about myself has to do with accepting myself as someone who is head-over-heels for men. I don't agree that I have to have myself a sexual partner of some kind in order to feel good about myself. I just have to be OK with who I am and the choices I'm making.<br /><br />By the way, I just watched TGMBC last week. I love that guy. I commented to the friend I was watching it with that I would act like that guy around that guy.Rexhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17981194315443616647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-67428645185735035562010-07-09T16:33:25.089-06:002010-07-09T16:33:25.089-06:00BROR: I don't know how studly it is to act so...BROR: I don't know how studly it is to act so adolescent with my encounter with hot guys. But, yes, it is a "great feeling" and no, I'm not complaining.<br /><br />MOHOH: You know, I can always count on your direct answers that are full of honesty and truth. I thank you again for that. I thank you again for understanding me. And I thank you again for accepting me. You are a wonderful friend that helps me to see things better with you than by myself.<br /><br />And yes, I am learning to "enjoy the ride."Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06159223254071653666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-29451152459197681882010-07-09T06:31:12.164-06:002010-07-09T06:31:12.164-06:00Pretty much. Once I began to feel secure in my BF&...Pretty much. Once I began to feel secure in my BF's love and began to have a reciprocal, passionate bond with him, I matured sexually. I quit having adolescent responses to hot guys.<br /><br />To be clear, I love eye candy as much as the next guy. I would absolutely notice your water boy and might make remarks to you about him or even mentally undress him as guys do sometimes. But meeting him wouldn't stupefy me as it would have before I came out and had a mature sexual relationship that met my needs.<br /><br />The interesting thing about this is that at the time when I would have been tongue-tied meeting an uber-hottie, I was married to a woman. Somehow (and I have no idea how the wiring in the brain works) the sexual part of your brain interprets a mixed-orientation relationship as celibacy. <br /><br />I should add the caveat, not for you, Beck, but for other readers that I am not advocating anything with this comment, and I'm not saying you don't have plenty of good things in your marriage. I don't think that you should "be more authentic" etc., etc. You're just fine the way you are and don't need fixing in any way. I'm simply saying that repressing your natural sexuality (or, in LDS speak, "not acting out") is going to have some side effects. One of these is being unusually affected, to the point of catatonia, by the presence of a handsome guy.<br /><br />As I said, enjoy the ride.MoHoHawaiihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15086670779804942122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-36877949617868999622010-07-09T02:20:41.616-06:002010-07-09T02:20:41.616-06:00Beck, you big stud, you're just normal. It hap...Beck, you big stud, you're just normal. It happens to me all the time. Isn't it a great feeling though? Even though you feel like a dork. I use to shy away from guys like this but not anymore.Brorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17843077698642948401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-48914657290503614452010-07-08T18:18:09.290-06:002010-07-08T18:18:09.290-06:00MOHOH: I don't believe you! I do believe tha...MOHOH: I don't believe you! I do believe that with a serious relationship, this "phenomenon" can and should be diminished, but are you telling me that you don't get the "buzz" or the "nervousness" or the "idiocy" that comes with being around a great looking guy? <br /><br />If not, then why not? And if not, then what have you done to get to the point of not getting that "buzz" that makes you speechless?<br /><br />I think I know your answers, and as long as I'm going to repress these feelings and not engage in being more natural with others and share my real self then this situation just isn't going to get any better. Right?<br /><br />I do enjoy it. It makes me feel alive and well and still being alive enough to notice. I know that it is of a greater amplitude because I have repressed these feelings so much, and I'm sure hetero guys who are not good with beautiful women will surely act the same way.<br /><br />I guess I'm glad I feel it... I just wish I could act more normal and engaging and outgoing around such great-looking guys. sigh... maybe someday.Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06159223254071653666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-80454138473081783732010-07-08T18:12:35.180-06:002010-07-08T18:12:35.180-06:00J4K: glad to hear I'm not alone! I'm sor...J4K: glad to hear I'm not alone! I'm sorry for you, however... :)<br /><br />SEAN: I hate bike store guys. They are usually good looking and I know what you mean. Great to see you commenting. I hope you are well despite experiencing this "phenomenon".Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06159223254071653666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-13330122699234057942010-07-08T16:42:28.259-06:002010-07-08T16:42:28.259-06:00I used to experience this. It went away completely...I used to experience this. It went away completely after I got a boyfriend who loved me and started to experience sexual fulfilment. <br /><br />Sorry. I think this is another artifact of repression. Repression of one's natural sexuality makes these kinds of attractions much more powerful than they otherwise would be.<br /><br />It's not all bad. Enjoy the buzz.MoHoHawaiihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15086670779804942122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-2457178967990708382010-07-08T13:52:30.571-06:002010-07-08T13:52:30.571-06:00Ohmygosh, beck :)
this happens to me all the time...Ohmygosh, beck :)<br />this happens to me all the time. except i'm not an introvert. I am always confident in crowds or other places (with two exceptions), people whom I admire intellectually and way gorgeous men.<br /><br />recently, i had to buy a new bike. well this guy was the way you described your sprinkler guy but his eyes were that white blue gorgeousness.... <br /><br />long story short.. i would have bought the store if he asked me. <br /><br />:)Seanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03828931862423178491noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-53206485542743163792010-07-08T11:25:19.177-06:002010-07-08T11:25:19.177-06:00happens to me all the time. dang frustrating.happens to me all the time. dang frustrating.j4khttp://unconfirmedbachelor.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26181705.post-79302245049194005292010-07-08T10:35:49.146-06:002010-07-08T10:35:49.146-06:00Are you in Utah? I manage a condo complex and nee...Are you in Utah? I manage a condo complex and need a sprinkler guy ;) haha.<br /><br />I think this is totally normal, but something that gets better with time (and experience dealing with good looking men, haha).Gay Sainthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14558954609570246405noreply@blogger.com